Blog #1 5/29/2024 – First ever blog

Marrying the Boogeyman has been for sale online for a little over 2 months. What gave me the desire to write my story was through my first healing after my escape. During my relationship, I had no information about what my abuser was doing, only that it was wrong and I felt his evilness.

My therapist, Ross, started educating me, along with a lot of research online and posts by others. Once I began learning and was able to put words and definitions to what Dennis had done, I was even more heartbroken and filled with a new trauma, recognizing the extent of how calculating and premeditated his abuse was. It also weighed down on me like a ton of bricks how widespread non-violent types of abuse is worldwide. I knew how devastating it felt learning the person I fell in love with never existed, and that he purposefully wanted to reduce me and my spirit to nothing, motivated by power, control, dominance, and to break down my boundaries.

I couldn’t stay silent and move on. I decided that I wanted to change the way the world views domestic abuse, which gave me the strength and determination I needed to start writing my story. I also learned that abuse usually doesn’t end when you leave, which was a new layer of abuse I experienced and was able to also include in my story. I know I don’t have the power to stop domestic abuse and violence, but my hope is to help lessen it by bringing awareness and understanding, which will lead to change. I would not want anyone to feel what I felt and experience what I experienced.

Please forgive any grammatic errors, as I am an imperfect writer.

Much love, Jeanelle